A Loss Hard to Express

Tara and I had a terrible loss this year.

A loved Trulove

She was 92 when she complained to me, “Everybody here is old.”

Gathering for Neal

Neal is family. So yeah, we were close in that sense.

Not your parents transgender

This person who has been right next to me all these years, is actually way more genuine and brave than the one I gave up.

Stepping in for Mom

I felt for a moment as though I was channeling her spirit.

Death, Prom, Japan and other minor happenings in my life

I choose to engage with everything that comes along. I feel all the requisite emotions (and then some), I participate whenever possible, and you guessed it: I am often exhausted.

How Do I Let Go?

Arno and I are getting to know each other still. And we will continue to, of course, for years to come. He has seen that deeply personal messages sent originally to him will sometimes end up in a public forum. He said he’s realizing that <in his words> I am a writer, and a writer […]

Triggers of trauma

“This is my family. I found it, all on my own. Is little, and broken, but still good. Yeah, still good.”

Response to a friend

I think a person can be forced to learn a skill like resilience.

Grieving

I’m so sad I couldn’t be at work today.